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Meet Dr. Debi @ Vanguard University September 25, 2012

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Fred Judkins & Dr. Debi

Hopeful Romantics unite at this unique workshop about the relationships between men and women in today’s culture.

Married, engaged, dating, or single . . .

Come experience the fun, laughter,
and romance as a pair of
Hopeful Romantics interpret Ephesians 5!

Click here now for more info or to register in advance for … Men’s Breakfast “Just Follow My Lead” … Ladies’ Luncheon “Do You Love Me?” … OR the entire Couples Workshop for only $145-which includes “The Sweethearts Ball,” a delightful Victorian-style dance in the Romantic Courtyard of Needham Chapel at Vanguard University!

The Countdown Begins! September 23, 2012

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countdownFred and I are so excited about the romance of Ephesians 5 … and our new Relationship Workshop!

Hopeful Romantics will unite at this unique workshop about the relationships between men and women in today’s culture.

Come experience the fun, laughter,
and romance with us!

Please register in advance for
… the Men’s Breakfast
… the Ladies’ Luncheon
OR the entire Couples Workshop for only $145-which includes a delightful Victorian-style dance in the romantic courtyard by Needham Chapel!

We have exciting news! September 11, 2012

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Sweethearts Ball ATTENTION!!!

Thanks to the unleashed generosity of two very amazing Christian couples who have joined us in support of healthy relationships, we are reducing the cost of Dance With Me workshops on September 29 at Vanguard University!

Single, dating, engaged, married …
We have something for
the “Hopeful Romantic” in everyone!
Just Follow My Lead
Everything you need to know about women
… in 90 minutes or less

Men’s Breakfast Workshop (9-11am)
now only $25

Do You Love Me?
The Psychology of Men and Relationships
Ladies’ Luncheon Workshop (11:30-3:30)
now only – $35

Couples Workshop
Men’s Breakfast, Ladies’ Luncheon,
The Sweethearts Ball,
PLUS a copy of Dr. Debi’s New Book!
still only $145

Register now!

Note: If you’ve already registered at a higher price, you will automatically receive a refund for the difference.

How cool is that? So we’ll see you there!

Needy or Openly Vulnerable? September 10, 2012

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Neediness gets such a bum rap. As one of my mentors told me, “To say that someone is too needy is like saying they are too human.” He was right. We are all needy. We cannot survive very long without one another … or a facsimile thereof. Do you remember “Wilson,” Tom Hanks’s volleyball friend in the movie Castaway? Human contact is so essential that we will create a face into which we can gaze. Animal, vegetable, or mineral, we derive great comfort in believing that we are not alone.

So if nothing is wrong with being needy, why are men so turned off by it? My guess is that it has nothing to do with a lack of empathy. Most men are wonderfully empathic. However, inexplicable emotion quickly becomes difficult for most of them because they cannot figure out what the problem is – what it is that you need, what they can do to help. So like in the movie Jerry McGuire, he might say, “Help me help you.”

So let’s go with vulnerability. By all means, do tell him how you feel. Just be brief and specific. It is also okay to cry, as long as you give him something to do that will help you feel better. This is most definitely one of those times when “even guys with two left feet come out alright if the girl is sweet.”

A word of caution here … be sure you’re honestly sharing your needs, concerns, or feelings, and not that you’re moving into manipulation or an attempt to try to fix what you think is wrong with him. More about how to help him become a better man in Chapter 8, but for now … let’s keep working on you …

Pre-order your copy of Dr. Debi’s new book now!
Release Date: September 29, 2012

Pardon My Mush September 3, 2012

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Is there a gal somewhere thinking this about you?

Dance With MeI’ve got a crush on someone
Guess who

I’ve got a crush on you, sweetie pie
All the day and nighttime, hear me sigh
I never had the least notion
That I could fall with such emotion

Could you coo, could you care
For a cunning cottage we could share
The world will pardon my mush
Cause I’ve got a crush, my baby, on you

How glad a million laddies
From millionaires to caddies
Would be, to capture me
But you had such persistence
You wore down my resistance
I fell, and it was swell
You’re my big and brave and handsome Romeo
How I won you I shall never, never know
It’s not that you’re attractive
But oh, my heart grew active
When you came into view

I’ve got a crush on you, sweetie pie
All the day and nighttime, hear me sigh
I never had the least notion
That I could fall with such emotion

Could you coo, could you care
For a cunning cottage we could share
The world will pardon my mush
Cause I’ve got a crush, my baby, on you

~ a Gershwin tune, most beautifully sung by Ella Fitzgerald