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Women: What You Need to Know April 30, 2013

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Join Dr. Debi for “Lunch Break Wednesday: Informational Session + Q & A” @ noon (PDT), May 1, 2013, when our topic will be “Understanding Women.” Get connected here.

Preview > Women Are Simple: Part 1

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Dance of Romance April 29, 2013

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Fred and Dr. Debi taught the Dance With Me Team the “*Congress of Vienna Waltz” at Mariners Church in Irvine, California. Very romantic!

Understanding a Man’s God-Given Purpose April 26, 2013

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Prelude to a Dance: Making Sense of Men

Saturday, April 27
10:30 – 11:30 am (PDT)

Men are created with a purpose. To make sense of their behavior, you must understand what’s behind it. Find out for free!

Free Teleconference With Dr. Debi

Women follow with trust and respect … April 24, 2013

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Fred Judkins, Dr. Debi Smith, and the Dance With Me Team demonstrate Victorian-style dance at Mariners Church in Irvine, CA. Vintage dance is stylish, elegant, easy to learn, fun … and very, very romantic.

Welcome to a Totally New Kind of Couples Workshop!
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. ~ Ephesians 5:21

This passage applies to the body of believers in fellowship with one another, so it naturally applies to husbands and wives as well. However, just how husbands and wives are to submit to one another is easily misunderstood in our current culture.

That’s what Dance With Me is all about — learning what submission looks like in the 21st Century. In this workshop couples learn to pay attention to one another’s needs and to be responsive to one another in light of his/her unique design and purpose.

Music by Spare Parts, used by permission, CD “Returning Heroes,” song “La Cachucha, available for purchase @ Spare Parts

Is that your final answer? April 18, 2013

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Each of us has a Bottom-line Question about ourselves. It’s a little bit different for everyone, but it’s always about our value. Some examples:

  • Am I loveable?
  • Does anyone want me?
  • Do I matter?
  • Will you be there for me when I need you?

We ask our Question over and over again (in disguise, of course), hoping to get the answer we need, but expecting our worst fears to be confirmed.

Learn more about relationships @ Dr. Debi’s FREE SEMINARS.

New! Worldwide Teleconference April 15, 2013

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teleconferenceLast Saturday, we launched our New Community Outreach Program with Prelude to a Dance: Secrets of Attraction via the Internet @ StartMeeting.com. Now you can join in on our discussions from anywhere in the World!

For our current schedule and details on how to get connected, visit Dr. Debi’s Page now!

In less than 24 hours … April 12, 2013

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Secrets of Attraction? Huh?

You might think this info is for women who want to attract a man. And it is.

But mostly, this information is for those of us who “have” a man … and want to make sure our romance thrives!

Women attract men. That’s no secret.

However, most of us are clueless about what it is that attracts an emotionally and spiritually healthy man … and keeps him interested for a lifetime.

We erroneously believe it’s all about our physical appearance.

In less that 24 hours, I’ll be meeting with women (and men) from across the continent. Won’t you join us?

Prelude to a Dance: Secrets of Attraction
Saturday, April 13, 10:30 am – 12:00 pm

F*r*ee Tele-Conference
US Toll Number: 530-881-1212
Meeting ID: 939-502-393

Instructions:

  1. About 5 minutes before the scheduled date and time, dial into the conference line using the toll number listed above.
  2. When prompted, enter the meeting ID, followed by the pound key.
  3. To join the online meeting, follow the meeting link listed above, then press “Join.”
  4. On the next page, complete your name and email address, then press “Submit.”
  5. The system will guide you through the process to participate in the online meeting.

For easier access* to the call at the scheduled time, you might want to download the optional software in advance > launch wizard to download meeting dashboard.

I look forward to meeting you very soon!

Warmly, Dr. Debi

* For 24/7 technical issues, please contact StartMeeting at (800) 644-9070.

Prelude to a Dance: Secrets of Attraction April 9, 2013

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Saturday, April 13

10:30 am – 12:00 pm

Find out what qualities are most attractive to emotionally and spiritually healthy men, as well as the challenges women often encounter in maintaining these wonderful qualities.

Free Conference Call via StartMeeting.com

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Mistakes We’ve Made April 6, 2013

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your_brainIf you’re like me, you’ve probably heard some pretty discouraging info about the long-term viability of romance in the past few decades (probably fewer decades that I, depending on your age).

It seems that my predecessors – as well as many of my contemporary colleagues – are pessimists when it comes to romance. And I believe it’s time we learn the truth about the inherent need of man for woman – and the power of it all!

Our Mistakes

Psychology and Christianity have both been telling us that our romance can’t last. That it’s a “trick” of Mother Nature (our biology) designed to facilitate our attraction to one another and to compel us to mate … to perpetuate our species. However, “they” warn us that no one can stay on a romantic “high” forever.

When I was teaching at the university a few years ago, my department chair forwarded a student email message to me. She was looking for a professor who could assist her with some research she was doing about how harmful Hollywood’s romantic movies are to our relationships. Not long ago, my own pastor commented that Hollywood sets up unrealistic expectations for our relationships.

Our expectations are too high? Really, folks?

It seems to me that our expectations are too low! I replied to my department chair that I would be very happy to speak with the student about romantic movies, but that I would not be giving her the response she was seeking. And for the first time, I was tempted to write to my pastor! (Yes, believe it or not, I really am shy, especially about personal confrontation.)

First, I believe all the romantic films (the truly romantic, that is, not the gory, sexually inappropriate stuff) tap into our deepest desire for emotionally intimate connection with another human being. And the reality is, we do that best in the context of traditional marriage.

And although I must admit that I haven’t yet read his book, I believe professional counselor Tim Alan Gardner is right on in his approach:

A couple’s sexual relationship has a far higher purpose than pleasure or procreation. Scripture makes it clear that sex is the one thing on earth that joins two people into one. Now readers can learn how to approach marital sex in a way that brings the fulfillment of true oneness. Sacred Sex shows how they can experience a beautiful, God-ordained life of intimacy that blesses them far beyond the bedroom walls, serves as an act of worship to God, and touches their hearts and souls in ways they never could have imagined. ~ Amazon’s Book Description

Sex without romance is empty. However, the amazing combo of companionship, commitment, romance, and sex make for a truly divine experience! Yay, God!

Reconnect, fan the flames of love, and keep your romance alive and well. It can be done! Ask me how during your FREE phone consultation!

Meet Dr. Debi This Saturday! April 4, 2013

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All New! Webinars
from Dr. Debi Smith

When it comes to the Dance of Romance, the Music Matters. Why? Because Music sets the emotional tone of your relationship.

This series of webinars is for Hopeful Romantic women who have questions about men. We’ll talk about the challenges of relationships … as well as unravel the Marvelous Mystery of Men!

The Music Matters
Saturday, April 6
10:30 am – 12:00 pm (PDT)
Pre-register: Free Preview!

Meet me on the web for this free preview of my new webinar series for women … all about men! We’ll have a chance to get to know one another and find out what questions we have about men.

  • Why won’t he talk to me?
  • Why does he do that?
  • Why won’t he commit?

“See” you there!

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