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Free Quizzes for Couples January 8, 2014

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How are things going? The following free quizzes can be helpful in evaluating the current state of your relationship. They are provided for informational purposes only, and are not intended to replace professional assessment. If you are experiencing distress, please contact your local mental health professional.


How well are you doing as a couple?This quiz, based on findings of marital research, can help you get an idea of how well you are doing in some vital areas of your relationship. After you submit your answers, your quiz results will be instantly emailed to you.

Click here to access the “Couples Quiz.”


Love & Respect Quiz

This quiz is adapted from J. Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.

Click here to access the “Love and Respect Quiz.”


Contact Info:

Dr. Debi Smith
Phone: 800.705.6223
Email: mail@drdebismith.com
Website: www.DrDebiSmith.com

Discover Romance November 26, 2013

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Life is filled with Simple Moments that make life special … if you notice them!discover_romance

 

A Hopeful Romantic + Ephesians 5 = Happy Couples! November 19, 2013

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Dance With Me by Dr. Debi Smith (Psychologist, Author, Speaker, Coach)

Available @ Amazon.com
or instant download for iPad, iPhone, Kindle, Nook, etc., @ Smashwords.com

Dr John TownsendMale-female relationships can be difficult. Both genders need understanding and skills to have great connections. Dr. Debi Smith has written a great book with biblical understanding, research-based principles, and applicable skills. The material will make significant gains in any relationship. I highly recommend this book.

~ Dr. John Townsend
Organizational Consultant, Psychologist
and Co-Author of Boundaries

The Truth About Women November 8, 2013

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femaleby Dr. Debi Smith

Guys, wouldn’t it be great if you could exceed the wisdom of Dr. Sigmund Freud? Despite all his work with women in exploring the possibilities of “a talking cure,” rumor has it that he died still wondering what women want.

Actually, we’re not that complicated, but poor Siggy didn’t have anyone to translate for him. Now you’re going to get the inside scoop!

I’m going to share a secret with you about women. When you understand this secret, you will be well on your way to finding out what she needs to develop an absolutely irresistible desire to follow you.

Now how cool is that? Way cool.

Most people believe that women are more complicated than men, and that’s simply not true. In fact, most problems men have with women can be solved using a minimum of words and energy.

Really? What a relief!

You see, the problem is how you see the problem. And the problem you think you see is probably not the problem at all. Women are different by nature. We can’t help it. We were born that way. And truth be told, you guys like us this way. In fact, there’s no one you would rather dance with than a girl, right?

However, the very things that draw you to us are the very things that you find confusing. You’ve probably wondered with Professor Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady, “Why can’t a woman be more like a man?”

But that’s not really what you want. You love the fact that she’s emotionally sensitive and not as big or as strong as you are. But you’re also very confused that so much depends on how she feels. And she feels a lot.

And she can talk forever and ever and never get to the point. She looks to you to solve problems for her … sometimes. But just as often, she gets angry if you try to solve a problem for her … especially if her feelings are involved. Sheesh.

What you probably don’t realize is just how differently she’s been treated her entire life … just because she’s female.

Men Are Not From Mars! November 2, 2013

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marsNo.

Men Are Not From Mars.
Women Are Not From Venus.

Men Don’t Have Waffle Brains.
And Women’s Brains Are Not Made of Spaghetti.

We’re from the Same Planet!
And we were created by the same All-Wise God.

But we are created to be different. And we have
different life purposes and experiences.

Want to know more? Here it is!

November 7th: Free Talk & Book Signing! October 29, 2013

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free talk book signing

27401 Los Altos, Suite 275, Mission Viejo, California

Join Dr. Debi for this FREE Talk & Booksigning!
You’ll be entertained and enlightened.
So bring your Spouse … a Friend … or your Spouse AND a Friend. 🙂

p.s. If you’re not married, you’ll still learn a lot about the opposite sex
… and what you can reasonably expect in a romantic relationship.

Register here, and we’ll see you there!

Have you read it yet? October 29, 2013

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Dance With Me: A Hopeful Romantic Interprets Ephesians 5

by Dr. Debi Smith … now available for purchase from
the following retailers …

Mariners Church, Irvine, CA

Skinsations Spa

Amazon.com

Creative Fundraising While Empowering Couples October 20, 2013

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fundraiserNew! Fundraising Opportunity

Are you looking for a Great Fundraiser for your Church, Organization, or Group?

Why not host an Ephesians 5 Sweethearts Dance … like for Christmas, New Year’s, or Valentines?

We’ll supply Dance Instruction, Recorded Music, and some Old-Fashioned Entertainment … with Lots of Fun and Laughter tossed in for good measure. It’s an Amazing Experience for Couples of All Ages and Stages!

You supply the location, Audio/Visual Equipment, and refreshments.
You sell tickets (name your price), and you keep all the money!

We will have books, CDs, and Coaching Packages for sale, and your group will get 10% of our sales. How cool is that?

If you’d like to know more, write to us at mail@drdebismith.com or leave a message at 800.705.6223.

Why do men stonewall? Maybe it’s just the Man Cave. September 4, 2013

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man on beachAn understanding of men necessarily includes a healthy respect for the Man Cave. But as women we typically have a really hard time with it. We have nothing to compare it to, so it simply doesn’t make sense to us.

But it makes a lot of sense to men.

When we’re worried about something, we usually want someone to walk and to talk though it with us. For the most part, our American culture has trained us to do just that.

However, the same culture has taught him to do the opposite! Remember the story of what typically happens to the toddler boy on the playground? Those early experiences were the beginning of his education in The Boy Code. He learned that a man has to appear tough – a Sturdy Oak – in order to be loved and respected. And he learned that a man must figure out his own problems and deal with all his vulnerable emotions – anger, sadness, fear, hurt, grief, shame, guilt, and doubt – on his own.

So that’s what he does, and he does it in the Man Cave.

Looking at it from our side of the wall, the Man Cave feels like stonewalling at best and abandonment at worst. Simply knowing that her man is struggling is not enough, because that only serves to trigger a woman’s natural desire to reach out and encourage him … to get him to talk to her … to try to convince him that she is his Safe Haven.

But a lifetime of experience has taught him otherwise. Her efforts to connect will feel like an invasion to him. And this invasion typically results in immediate defense – usually by strengthening his wall. And being shut out makes her more anxious … worried about him … and about herself. It feels like the Beginning of the End to her, and she often doesn’t understand why. So she tries to fix it. But first she has to get through the wall. Drastic times call for drastic measures … so she hauls out the Wrecking Ball.

You can see where this is going, right?

Nowhere. Absolutely Nowhere.

“So what do I do? I suppose you expect me to sit down on the curb outside the Man Cave and just wait for him to come out?” you ask in your frustration. “If I do that,” you reason, “he’ll never come out!”

Nope. There’s so much more you can do to help him!

Stay tuned or find out more now in Dance With Me: A Hopeful Romantic Interprets Ephesians 5

Tell Us What You Think June 17, 2013

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Dr Debi Smith
Love is simple, but not always easy.
Learn to live out the Romance of Ephesians 5 while discovering new, creative solutions to old problems through …

(a) our hope in Christ,
(b) a deeper understanding of one another,
(c) learning to assess where we are, and
(d) the practical and immediate application of what you learn.

Thursday ~ Friday ~ Saturday: Each session in this upbeat Program builds upon the previous, with experiential exercises that you will actually enjoy because they’re fun … and very romantic!

YOUR OPINION COUNTS!
This is a Brand New Program! So after completing the survey,
you will be invited to a series of optional preview seminars
… and the opportunity to be part of our Pilot Study!
Give Us Your Input > complete the survey
… and Get Priority Notification When Registration Opens