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The Abdication of Adam July 29, 2014

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Where Are You, Adam?

We know that Eve wasn’t the only one who messed everything up right there in the Garden.

Check out the rest of his story!
[The Abdication of Adam]

It’s Your Choice! July 17, 2014

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What’s your point of view today?

Are you struggling to overcome past hurts and regrets?

Or are you joyfully learning to walk in Newness of Life in Christ?

Your point of view means everything!

If you believe you must change your behavior … or your mate’s behavior … in order to enjoy Life and Love, you’ve got it all wrong!

We are not called to live with a focus on what anyone has done in the past. But that’s what we often do! We spin our wheels trying to make up for our sin … or the sins of others. Or getting someone else to make up for it all. How crazy is that?

The Truth is – because of what Jesus did for us on the Cross … He died for our sins that we might be reconclied to God – we get to choose our point of view …

… and that’s Good News!

We get to choose Life in the Spirit, which means we get to learn how to see Men, Women, and Marriage from God’s point of view. Through the comfort and guidance of the Holy Spirit, we have the choice to co-create a Life that’s Better Than Eden!

How cool is that?

Bottom Line: Living Life in the Spirit means our point of view changes from past-centered to Jesus-centered.

And He always has a more excellent way of looking at things!

This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him.

~ Deuteronomy 30:19-20a

Read more about the Psychology of Men and Romance in my newest book!

The Woman February 10, 2014

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It is my pleasure to share this guest post by Bro Shelby Stokes.

Thank you all for joining me, again, on today, to continue forward in the encouragement of seeking the REVOLUTIONARY ACTION of reclaiming OUR RELATIONSHIPS. Today we will speak, exclusively, to the Women. Please, take a moment, or two, and “look upon” the photo. Really take in the image of the Woman. Get a very good understanding of who this Woman is: to be found in the position (placement in the photo, and in the life of the Man; in his heart). Do you see her? Can you see who she just may be? You do?…….

Alright, my faithful Sisters, come take a walk with me for a bit. [read full post]

The Man February 8, 2014

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It is my pleasure to share this guest post by Bro Shelby Stokes.

The_RelationshipThe Man:

When I, first, looked at this photo my insides leaped up in JOY! Not because of the sheer awesome nature of the photo; although the photo is sheerly awesome, yet it was due to the fact that I knew this photo would be the “visual catalyst” to our (the Men and Women) ushering in the much needed, much anticipated, much talked about, REVOLUTION: concerning our Relationships. And, of course, all of this MUST BEGIN with our relationship with God (as the Head of our lives). Today, “How God INSTRUCTS the Man”.

My beloved Brothers, please, STAND UP and walk with me for a while…..

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Great Advice for Husbands January 27, 2014

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Michael Simmons, FireproofWhen a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits, and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. If the amount he studied her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gains a college degree, a master’s degree, and ultimately a doctorate degree. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever close to hers.
~ Michael Simmons (character), Fireproof (movie)

A Hopeful Romantic + Ephesians 5 = Happy Couples! November 19, 2013

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Dance With Me by Dr. Debi Smith (Psychologist, Author, Speaker, Coach)

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Dr John TownsendMale-female relationships can be difficult. Both genders need understanding and skills to have great connections. Dr. Debi Smith has written a great book with biblical understanding, research-based principles, and applicable skills. The material will make significant gains in any relationship. I highly recommend this book.

~ Dr. John Townsend
Organizational Consultant, Psychologist
and Co-Author of Boundaries

The Truth About Women November 8, 2013

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femaleby Dr. Debi Smith

Guys, wouldn’t it be great if you could exceed the wisdom of Dr. Sigmund Freud? Despite all his work with women in exploring the possibilities of “a talking cure,” rumor has it that he died still wondering what women want.

Actually, we’re not that complicated, but poor Siggy didn’t have anyone to translate for him. Now you’re going to get the inside scoop!

I’m going to share a secret with you about women. When you understand this secret, you will be well on your way to finding out what she needs to develop an absolutely irresistible desire to follow you.

Now how cool is that? Way cool.

Most people believe that women are more complicated than men, and that’s simply not true. In fact, most problems men have with women can be solved using a minimum of words and energy.

Really? What a relief!

You see, the problem is how you see the problem. And the problem you think you see is probably not the problem at all. Women are different by nature. We can’t help it. We were born that way. And truth be told, you guys like us this way. In fact, there’s no one you would rather dance with than a girl, right?

However, the very things that draw you to us are the very things that you find confusing. You’ve probably wondered with Professor Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady, “Why can’t a woman be more like a man?”

But that’s not really what you want. You love the fact that she’s emotionally sensitive and not as big or as strong as you are. But you’re also very confused that so much depends on how she feels. And she feels a lot.

And she can talk forever and ever and never get to the point. She looks to you to solve problems for her … sometimes. But just as often, she gets angry if you try to solve a problem for her … especially if her feelings are involved. Sheesh.

What you probably don’t realize is just how differently she’s been treated her entire life … just because she’s female.

Men Are Not From Mars! November 2, 2013

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marsNo.

Men Are Not From Mars.
Women Are Not From Venus.

Men Don’t Have Waffle Brains.
And Women’s Brains Are Not Made of Spaghetti.

We’re from the Same Planet!
And we were created by the same All-Wise God.

But we are created to be different. And we have
different life purposes and experiences.

Want to know more? Here it is!

November 7th: Free Talk & Book Signing! October 29, 2013

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free talk book signing

27401 Los Altos, Suite 275, Mission Viejo, California

Join Dr. Debi for this FREE Talk & Booksigning!
You’ll be entertained and enlightened.
So bring your Spouse … a Friend … or your Spouse AND a Friend. 🙂

p.s. If you’re not married, you’ll still learn a lot about the opposite sex
… and what you can reasonably expect in a romantic relationship.

Register here, and we’ll see you there!

Have you read it yet? October 29, 2013

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Dance With Me: A Hopeful Romantic Interprets Ephesians 5

by Dr. Debi Smith … now available for purchase from
the following retailers …

Mariners Church, Irvine, CA

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